Happy Breadwinner?
/I recently listened to an audio recording of some dialog around women being the breadwinners of the family and how awesome it can be. If you are an accomplished single professional woman who truly desires to marry for love, I’m sure this has crossed your mind (and in some cases immediately dismissed). I must admit that a few years ago when I thought of this being my reality, a couple of limiting beliefs popped up. Like to hear em? Here they go!
It will be impossible to distinguish between someone who truly loves you, for richer or poorer, and someone who is just in it for the richer segment of your life.
The ego of most males would never allow them to be content in this situation.
As you might have imagined, these limiting beliefs prevented me from building relationships without judgment. Well since then I have met many couples who are VERY happy (sizzling ;-) with the wife as the sole or majority breadwinner and I kicked the limiting beliefs to the curb. One of the speakers nailed it when he said that the key to being happy is to consciously choose the role and to choose a relationship that honors your values and goals. The lack of this foundation sets the stage for resentment later. I couldn’t agree more and that goes for any relationship I believe. Granted this isn’t for every woman. If everything in you is in knots at the thought of this, then don’t force yourself into the role of a breadwinner. But if you are open to being the higher earner here are a few tips:
- Don’t give up. I won’t say it will be easy, because you are only half of the relationship equation. The man will still need your admiration, respect, love and support. If he is not all in and consciously choosing his role, there may be some bumps along the way. But what relationship doesn't have those?
- Listen carefully to your inner wisdom and its guidance. The Universe is continually working on your behalf to help you get what you desire. It will lead you to the one that is down regardless of whether it's beans and cornbread or filet mignon and lobster. Be present to the miracles and go within to find out how you can obtain such an awesome relationship. And when you find that relationship…..
- Keep the communication open so that both of you can mutually support one another. And lastly, treat him just as you would the man that makes 10X what you do.
Of course there is a lot in the nooks and crannies of this so if you are interested and want to know more, shoot me an email and we can set up a time to chat.
Live in Love my friends!
LaKenya