Death, Forgiveness, and Love

Well it has been a busy and emotionally taxing couple of months. But I am happy to say that I am doing very well and getting back to my regular routine. I want to share with you all so that you can see how I as a coach, and you, can use reframing to boost your energy in difficult situations. Reframing is what we in the coaching world use to help our clients see things differently and to be more positive about what is happening. So here it goes.

I came down with the flu for the first time in years at the end of January and I felt TERRIBLE. It took a few weeks to start feeling like my normal self.  
Reframe: No big deal I guess my body needed to rest. 

Shortly thereafter my 94 year old grandmother (suffering from severe dementia) started refusing to eat and was sent home and placed in hospice care. So off I go to visit her with a heavy heart knowing what was to come. I returned home knowing that I had seen her for the last time. 
Reframe: I remember that all I had wanted for the past few years was one moment where she remembered who I was. Though she wasn’t speaking, she gripped my hand with whatever energy she had and I knew that she knew exactly who I was.

So it was only a matter of time, she passed away, then off I went to comfort my 88 year old grandfather (they were married 66 years), and to attend her memorial. 
Reframe: The peace that I got from her knowing who I was allowed me the strength to be strong for my grandfather even when I wasn’t sure I could. And I arrived to a community that had wrapped their arms around him in support in addition to all the family. Shout out to the small town peeps in Great Bend, KS!

Every family has their ups and downs and I was concerned that some of the “downs” would result in the ever dreaded funeral drama.
Reframe: Healing is possible in all relationships and sometimes it takes a death to bring that healing. I am happy to say that there was no drama but rather love, forgiveness, peace, and a lot of hilarious stories.

I get home and look at my finances and had to take a few deep breaths. Those last minute trips, car rentals to drive the 3 hours to the country, hotels for early morning flights, food, etc. were expensive.
Reframe: At least I had it when I needed it most and I didn’t have to miss out on any of the awe inspiring moments.

When you find yourself facing tough situations just remember:
1.There is always a way to reframe a situation into the positive light of love.
2.There is always a path to healing.  Love always wins and forgiveness always brings peace.
3.The Universe is always working in your favor to prepare you for what lies ahead.

Live in Love my friends!
LaKenya